I Didn’t Sign Up For This!
A Journey Through Marriage: 15 Years of Grace and Growth
By Denise Rezsonya
http://denisemrezsonya.com
Today, my husband and I celebrate 15 years of marriage, and I can genuinely say that it’s a celebration!
Fifteen years ago, we were young dreamers, full of excitement and optimism. We thought marriage would be easy—that we’d always be best friends, facing life’s challenges side by side. That dream lasted about a week after our honeymoon before reality set in.
Marriage is hard work. It’s filled with moments that test your patience, love, and commitment. In our journey, we’ve faced more ups and downs than a roller coaster: raising two wonderful kids, enduring about eight job layoffs for Dave, and navigating multiple moves between Florida and Indiana.
The Fork in the Road
At the seven-year mark, like many couples, we hit a breaking point. I found myself wondering, “Is this it? This isn’t what I signed up for!” My Prince Charming felt more like a stranger—overworked, stressed, and distant.
Meanwhile, I had lost sight of myself. The once energetic professional had become an exhausted, frustrated stay-at-home mom of two. I barely recognized my life anymore.
The Turning Point
So why do we get married? Are we doomed to failure from the start? The answer is a resounding no. The key to making a marriage work—what ultimately saved ours—is putting God at the center.
When Christ is at the heart of your relationship, He provides the strength, guidance, and grace to navigate even the hardest moments.
There are, of course, circumstances like abuse that may warrant ending a marriage. But if there’s any chance of reconciliation, fight for it. As a child of divorce, I know firsthand the longing for stability and the lasting impact it has on children.
Our Restoration
Five years ago, I walked into marriage counseling with my arms crossed, ready to give up. But through that process, God stepped into the center of our marriage—where He should have been all along.
The change wasn’t overnight, but as we placed Christ at the center, our relationship began to heal. Counseling, prayer, and a renewed commitment to each other allowed us to rebuild what felt broken.
A Message of Hope
If your marriage is struggling, don’t give up without a fight. Seek help—whether from a counselor, pastor, or trusted mentor. No marriage is perfect, but every marriage is worth fighting for if both partners are willing to try.
I’m proud to celebrate 15 years of marriage with Dave. Our life together isn’t flawless, but it’s filled with love, gratitude, and the grace of God.
Reflect on Your Marriage
Is Christ at the center of your relationship? If not, are you ready to place Him there?
“Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” — Mark 10:9
To Dave: Happy Anniversary! I’m grateful for the life we’ve built together, thanks to God’s grace. I love you!
A Song of Restoration
If you or someone you know is struggling in their marriage, I encourage you to listen to Chris August’s song, “Restore”. It’s a reminder of the power of Christ to heal and restore.
Photo Credits: Julie Montgomery, Stinky Feet Photography